IN-PERSON AND ONLINE FOR WOMEN IN TEXASTherapy for Anxiety & Perfectionism in Fort Worth
It’s okay to bless this mess.
You think it may be time to admit you’re crumbling under the pressure.
Maybe you’re in motion from the moment you wake up: Your alarm goes off and you immediately reach for your phone—checking work emails and social accounts and finding background noise to help hoist you out of bed.
Most mornings you grab a container of yogurt or Mush (or just coffee) from the fridge before running out the door. Or maybe you stop for a breakfast sandwich or donut (or more coffee?) before heading to work. Once there, you have to perform twice as well to prove you’re worthy enough to be part of the boys’ club or risk getting fired and losing everything.
Bring on more coffee, right?
If you’re coupled up, you might get a call from your boyfriend or husband who can’t find his wallet again, even though you put it in the same place you always do when you pull it from the back pocket of the pants he’s left on the floor and now it’s your fault he’s going to be late for some reason. And now it’s a fight, and you hang up terrified this will be the final straw that’ll make him leave you.
You lay in bed at night, unable to sleep, unable to stop yourself from doom scrolling on your phone, maybe a little inebriated (I don’t judge), and wonder if it’s time to let go of the things in your life that aren’t working. But you stop there because the idea of actually doing it is too much.
YOU MAY SEE YOURSELF IN THE ARCHETYPE OF…
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You go straight home after work because you’re out of energy to pretend for the sake of others anymore. So you become a hermit and call it grandma chic. Boys in books are better anyway.
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You spend your free time at pilates, happy hour, out dancing, or doing hobbies. When people invite you out, you say, “OMG YES.” It doesn’t matter where. As long as you never slow down long enough to be alone with your thoughts.
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You spent your childhood cleaning up your parents’ messes and decided you would never be like them. So every step you took in life was the opposite of everyone else in your family. Instead of building a life that’s “so you,” you ended up with a life that’s “not them.”
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Maybe your sibling was a bit of a rebel, so you stepped up—someone had to. You got good grades, always did your chores, and you received the praise that came along with it. It felt so good, you never stopped to wonder if it was what you really wanted.
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You take care of everything, everyone, and all of their emotions because that's what you learned to do to survive and keep the peace. If someone offers to help, you tend to say no because it’ll take more energy to direct them than to do it yourself.
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You’re just checking the boxes because it’s what you’ve always done, but none of it brings you a sense of joy or satisfaction. You’ve been on the move your whole life and you’re running out of steam. There are days you look at your life and think: I did everything I was supposed to. Is this really it?
How I Work
The goal isn’t to get rid of your anxiety. It’s to stop letting your anxiety make your decisions for you.
Some anxiety is good. (Hear me out.) It's what kicks us in the pants to get going. But too much of it, especially when misplaced, can overwhelm your entire system. And when you’re someone who learned perfection equals safety, it can feed the anxiety until you're gripping so hard you can't feel your hands anymore.
Together, we’ll take a journey to the past to find out where you got the message you needed to be “flawless” (and not in the Beyoncé way) to survive. Chances are it was protecting you from something. Okay, maybe everything was "good" growing up, but, I still have some questions:
Was everything good because you learned not to make mistakes or rock the boat?
What would life have looked like if your mom let you get your dresses dirty?
What if your family encouraged your interests for the joy of loving them instead of the achievements associated with them?
Is it possible your household was filled with landmines and you had to learn to be perfect just to make sure you were safe?
These are all potential trauma zombies—things you buried a long time ago by overworking, drinking, smoking, eating, etc… But all that stuff was buried alive, and those memories are clawing their way out.
When we find those pivotal moments, we can use techniques like Accelerated Resolution Therapy® (ART)* to help you process difficult memories without having to relive them. When your inner critic starts running things, we'll use parts work and archetypes to meet her, thank her for all her hard work, and give her a well-earned demotion. She's been working overtime, anyway. She deserves a break too.
We'll also look at your body, because not everything you’re feeling is in your head. If your anxiety ebbs and flows in line with your menstrual cycle, that's invaluable information. I might ask about things like your caffeine intake (I know you need it, but do you really?), how you’re nourishing your body, and the vices you’re leaning on to get through that leave you spent the next day (because hangxiety is real).
Ultimately, I want you to realize how amazing you truly are, and own that.
Healing your anxiety isn’t all about mindset.
As women, our bodies, physical health, and hormones are key players in how we feel. I take a functional approach to mental health that centers the mind-body connection.
Therapy can help you with:
You begin to identify the things that stress you out and you have ways to prevent them from escalating to behaviors that deplete you. You’re able to relax, rest, and experience stillness without guilt. You learn how to ground yourself in your physical body and connect to your intuition.
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Body Security
Self worth
You can release the feelings of guilt, regret, and anger you’ve been holding onto about past experiences. You begin to shift your focus to what is within your control, instead of fighting to control everything outside of you.
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You realize that confidence isn’t an absence of fear, but the ability to move through fear with self-trust. You begin to see challenges as opportunities and past mistakes as sources of wisdom. You build the resilience to step into the unknown without the need to control the outcome.
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Confidence
You recognize the situations that lead you to drink, smoke, shop, binge, or scroll, and replace those behaviors with nourishing ones built on intention. You no longer engage in one-night-stands or hook-ups to feel wanted because self-love and affection is enough. You’re able to break the cycle of self-sabotage and procrastination because you no longer fear the what-ifs.
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Destructive coping mechanisms
Boundary setting
You’re able to set boundaries in your relationships without fear of rejection or abandonment. You understand, in your soul, that if it’s not a “hell yes,” it’s a “hell no,” and you honor that. You regain your energy and your power because you realize it’s not your job to control how other people feel or behave.
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You clarify your core values and desires (the things you want, not the things that placate other people), and take meaningful action on those wants. You step into new opportunities because you know what’s possible. You remember your creative power and reconnect with your purpose.
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Embracing Growth
THERAPY FOR ANXIETY & PERFECTIONISM IN FORT WORTH
Start living a life that moves toward what you love, instead of moving away from what you fear.
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I hold a Master's in Professional Counseling and I'm certified in Accelerated Resolution Therapy, which I use to process the buried stuff that's fueling your anxiety from underneath. I'm also certified in functional hormone health, because if your anxiety is rooted in a hormonal imbalance or nutritional deficiency, no amount of cognitive reframing is going to fix that.
I've trained through the Somatic Wilderness Therapy Institute for nature-based work, and I hold certifications in yoga, coaching, and personal training. I also know what perfectionism feels like from the inside. I've lived it.
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If you’ve been handed coping skills and breathing exercises and sent on your way, I get why you're skeptical. In our session, we’ll look at your body, your cycle, your nutrition, your family system, the roles you've been playing since childhood, and the beliefs you absorbed before you were old enough to question them. We also build practical systems for your time, your money, your routines.
This isn't fifty minutes of talking about your feelings once a week. We look at the whole picture of you—mind, body, and soul—to help you live a more fulfilled, nourished life.
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Honestly? You might be both. Stress is situational. You have a deadline, you're stressed, the deadline passes, you feel better. Anxiety is more like replaying conversations in your head, a tightness in your chest, or an inability to relax even when nothing is observably wrong. If your brain is running worst-case scenarios while you're trying to watch a movie, that's probably not just stress. We can talk about it during our consultation call.
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You're busy because you say yes to everything and put yourself last. (I say that with love.) Most of my clients choose 90-minute sessions because they'd rather go deep once a week than skim the surface. We start weekly for a minimum of 6 to 12 weeks and then adjust based on how you're doing. As part of our work, we can do a time assessment together and figure out where the space is, because it's there. You've just been filling it with everyone else's stuff. I promise you have time in your week to take care of you, and I’m going to encourage you to make that a priority.
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No. Your job isn't the problem. How you're functioning inside your job might be. We look at how perfectionism is running your work life, where your boundaries are (or aren't), and why external achievements feel like a checkbox instead of something worth celebrating. Sometimes we figure out you need to set better boundaries at work. Sometimes we figure out you need to advocate for a raise. Sometimes we figure out you've outgrown the role. But I'm not going to tell you to blow up your career. I'm going to help you figure out what you want and trust yourself to make the call.
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I don't believe you should be in therapy forever. We start weekly for a minimum of 6 to 12 weeks so we can build momentum. From there, we adjust. Most of my clients eventually move to every other week because they don't need me as often, and that's the whole point. Some take a break and come back when something new comes up. Some stick around every other week because they like having the space as their self care time. But I see therapy as a season of your life, not a permanent subscription. The goal is for you to trust yourself enough that you don't need me in the room to figure it out.
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That's the perfectionism talking. You don't need to hit rock bottom to deserve support. You don't need a diagnosis. You don't need a crisis. If your brain won't stop running, your chest is tight, you're not sleeping, and you're exhausting yourself trying to hold it all together, that's enough. You don't need a permission slip to take care of yourself. You're allowed to ask for help (and actually receive it).
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Yes. And if it's working for you, great, we keep it. What I will do is ask when you last had bloodwork done, because long-term use of some SSRIs can contribute to nutritional deficiencies nobody mentioned to you. Same with birth control. That's not me telling you to stop taking anything. That's me making sure your body has what it needs to do its job while the medication does its. Sometimes we figure out that your anxiety has a physiological root underneath it that the medication is managing but not addressing. Sometimes we find out everything is functioning the way it should and we get to work on the stuff that's bugging you. Either way, you walk out with more information than you walked in with, and I'd rather you make decisions about your body from a full picture than a partial one.
Frequently Asked Questions
*Accelerated Resolution Therapy® is a registered service mark of the Rosenzweig Center for Rapid Recovery (RCRR), used with permission.